Here are some tips to help your partner feel more at ease and get him into the swing of things.
Don’t rescue him.
If the father’s efforts at childcare aren’t smooth and efficient at first, don’t show him "the right way" to do a task. His way of doing things doesn’t need to exactly match yours. What’s really important is that the job gets done. If you correct him he may feel inadequate or resentful.
Include the father in the baby’s bedtime routine.
Encourage him to help with the baby’s bath or read the baby a story. Again, resist the urge to insist him to do these bedtime routines "your" way.
Encourage him to attend the baby’s doctor appointments with you.
With each visit he’ll learn how the baby is developing and what to look for when she’s sick. He may even ask some questions you haven’t thought about.
Seek his advice while making decisions.
Sharing parenting means sharing decision-making. When problems pop up seek the father’s advice. Discuss everything with him from how the baby’s room should be arranged to which toys to buy. Also make sure you take his advice—at least some of the time.
It is important for the father to get involved in the day-to-day process of bringing up your baby. This helps in building a better bond between the two in the long run.
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