Your partner in crime would also be feeling the same and perhaps more so… For him, it is all so sudden, situational and all in the head.
To help him out first, identify your partners stress triggers. A new father might get stressed out about:
Fear of the whether he will be a good dad.
Less time with you
Lack of sex
So, how do you deal with this?
Get your friends and family together and form a support group for your partner. They can chip in with small household chores relieving your partner of this additional burden while you both are in the hospital having the baby.
Communicate: Talk to him. Share with him how you feel, your worries and ask him about his feelings. Let him know that you are in this together and sharing the responsibilities. Plan your finances.
Prepare him to be a father: Watch videos of baby growth and development along with your partner. Enlist him in a class where they teach basics of holding a baby, changing diapers etc.
Get him involved: Get your partner involved in your pregnancy. Take him shopping for baby clothes and to doctor visits, scans and let him experience the growth of the baby. Together talk to your doctor if it is ok for your to indulge in sexual intercourse.
Attend prenatal birthing classes together: Why not take your partner to that yoga class ? He can spend time with you and at the same time can provide you with support and assistance during some of the postures. Lamaze classes are another good way to involve your partner in your pregnancy as they often require him to be with you and will also acquaint him to his role during labour and delivery.