Disciplining a baby is an ongoing process. Though you need to establish decorum, but it needs to be done in a very loving and peaceful manner. The first step of this process is to gain your baby’s trust. This has a lasting influence on her. If your baby trusts you, she feels more secure and less anxious. She confides in you, and even when you are strict with her, she knows that you understand her needs and love her enough.
How shouldyou behave with your baby?
Shower affection more often : This way the baby knows that you love her a lot and this helps her in trusting you. This trust goes a long way in disciplining your baby.
Guide your discipline techniques: The key to effective disciplining is to understand her temperament first. You should try to discipline her for the development of her potential, talents and tendencies. But you must not try to turn her into someone she is not, for instance, turn a boisterous intense baby into a mellow laid-back one.
Communicate your discipline plan: Let your baby become aware of the discipline technique you are likely to adopt. You can either talk about this to your baby or make her understand through your behavior. Discipline techniques should not be sudden, especially if you are trying something new.
Be consistent: Any technique can fail if you do not follow through or enforce consequences consistently. For example, if you say that toys are going to be out of her limit for a week for a wrong behaviour, then take them away for a week or until she stops. Do not break your discipline rules by giving in during public exhibitions of bad behaviour, such as your baby throwing a tantrum while shopping. If you give into your baby’s demands, this may continue. Try to keep your goals and your techniques consistent over time. If more than one adult is responsible for the baby’s discipline, be sure you agree about the approaches you both are going to use.
Once done, forget it: Do not keep lingering on to the wrongs she did and consequences she had to bear. After the consequence is over or the time has been served, do not ask her for apologies or continue to lecture her about the behaviour. Help your baby return to an appropriate activity.
Understand what is appropriate for your baby’s development: Let your baby gain the maturity to grow into the behaviour you want her to show. If she is not able to comprehend what you expect of her, she may never be able to comply with it.
Look for the ‘why’ behind behaviours: There may be occasions when your baby may show a particular inappropriate behaviour. This may be because of some specific reason like, a baby may be cranky if she is hungry or she may not be interested in food at all if she has an infection. Be open to such scenarios. At such times, you need to understand the causes and not the behavioural outcomes.
Give yourself a break: Even if you have the best discipline techniques and parenting style, there are some days when nothing seems to work. Or perhaps you have had a bad day too.
Use Positive Disciplining Techniques.
Developing skills for positive discipline is a tough process and takes a lot of practice and time. It is quite likely that you may also make mistakes. If you feel you have made a mistake, be honest. Apologize to your baby and explain how you plan to change your response the next time. Most of all it is a game of patience and perseverance. You can definitely be successful, if you maintain both.
To sum it up, disciplining is important to bring in the right behaviourism in your baby but it also depends on your behaviour towards your baby.